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IDIOT ALERT!!! STRONG WARNING

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NOPE, WE AREN’T TALKING ABOUT DONALD TRUMP TODAY 😦

Sterotypes exist for Deaf people and they are real.

So far, I’ve had

  • You talk so well, you can’t be deaf
  • You don’t look deaf
  • So do hearing aids fix you, so your not really deaf
  • What are those things in your ears

PLUS MANY MORE. Have you had any, share them with me on Facebook in the comments πŸ™‚

I just want to punch, smash and break down a few stereotypes in this short piece today

  1. Deaf people can’t drive

Yes. We can.

2. All Deaf people sign

No, not all.

3. You don’t look Deaf

That’s so dumb. What is a Deaf person supposed to look like? A alien with three tits? Come on..

4. Hearing aids/cochlear implants cure Deaf people

Oh my god. Could you sound anymore like Donald Trump with this nonsense..

5. Deaf and Dumb

Really Billy, you have 2 GCSE’s and 1 tooth. Go away πŸ™‚

If you have any other stupid comments or stereotypes that have be said to you, comment below on Facebook or message me privately. I love to hear people’s stories

Going to the Doctor’s: a brief overview

Waiting for the GP to come out and call your name… and then missing it when they come out πŸ™‚

My local doctor’s are anything BUT deaf aware. They insist on using the phone to communicate rather than simply emailing or providing alternative communication methods.

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Quite frankly, some of the attitudes towards me and my family when we say ‘we are deaf, we don’t use the phone’ – it feels as if we are a nuisance to them… I hate it.

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In the future, I want to go to 10+ GP Practice’s to deliver deaf awareness to those professionals as a deaf patient, as it is vital that deaf people have access to the best quality of healthcare.

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It is easy for hearing people to ring up and make an appointment, for them to look on their phones while their waiting for their name to be called.. deaf people do not have that luxury.

Well, some deaf people may have better access to healthcare than others depending on the region where they live. But I can firmly say, where I live, access to healthcare is minimal, it really is not easy.

HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED SIMILAR THINGS TO ME? CHECK BELOW

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If anyone who lives within Southport and is Deaf, if you have a similar experiences to me, please get in touch.

You can email me via deafgirlkj@outlook.com

You can private message me on any of my social media accounts – @kjdeafgirl

Can you relate? My experience in mainstream school in 12 sentences.

I attended mainstream primary, secondary, college and now University. So I have A LOT of experience being 1 of 2/3 Deaf people out of hundreds of hearing people.

Lessons:

  1. Being in ANY, almost EVERY lesson when the teacher is doing the register to check attendance and worrying and waiting for when they will say your name.. anyone else? or is that just me

2. Every time a teacher explains a new topic and they HAVE to use fancy diagrams and pictures on the board whilst directly talking to the board…

3. Getting asked a question but not hearing what the teacher has asked, then the teacher assumes you don’t know… instead of REPEATING it

Other students:

  1. Getting asked if they can use your radio aid… ‘can you hear me’ repeated 200 times. Like YES I CAN HEAR YOU but I have no clue what you are saying

2. ‘What are those THINGS in your ears’ – One day, I really want to answer ‘Oh you didn’t know, I work for the CIA πŸ™‚ ‘

3. When other students panic that you are Deaf and think if they open their mouth wide and talk loud and slow.. it will help. Firstly, no. Secondly, you need a chewing gum

‘I know everything about Deaf people teacher’

  1. I know sign language!!! –

Me: excited

Them: A…..p……C…..o

Me: IM OUT

2. Making it obvious that you are the only Deaf person in the room

‘ 3.Your doing so so well even though your Deaf’ … ok so Deaf people can’t achieve. Got ya πŸ™‚

‘I can’t be bothered to attempt to understand how to include you in my classes teacher’

  1. ‘Didn’t you hear what I just said??’ – nope.. that’s kind of why I’m staring at you with a confused face??????????

2. ‘Next time, listen in class’ – yeah okay, I’ll just programme my hearing aids to ‘hearing’ next time πŸ™‚

3. ‘Stop talking to the person next to you’ – but I’m just asking the person next to me what you SAID BECAUSE I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT YOUR TALKING ABOUT

Here are some interesting clips from Deaf people for you to check out this week!!



Hajra Mirza: ‘at Manchester City Women’s FC, I feel safe knowing that we all share the same disability’

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What is your experience at a young age, of playing football?

‘Before, I used to play for the local hearing football team where I lived, it was difficult to be able to perform at my best when I did not know what the other players were shouting

As Ben Lampert, Britain’s only Deaf full time football coach says ‘
people get judged. They think you can’t do it and they tend to be a bit patronising. We need to take that away and judge people on their skills and ability rather than their deafness.’

‘I felt judged in my local hearing football team. because they weren’t deaf aware, so when I made a mistake or didn’t do what I was supposed to do, they though I was rubbish already without giving me the opportunity to improve’

Now, what is it like playing for Manchester City Women’s FC (Deaf Football)?

‘In Man City, everyone’s very aware and has a different approach in football that suits all of us in terms of eye contact’

‘Deaf football teams like Man City give me encouragement which motivates me to do well’

‘I am now able to take in and understand the coach/players feedback in order to progress as a player’

As a University student, do you find that playing for Manchester City Women’s FC helps you as a student?

‘As a University Student, I am constantly studying which is so stressful so its nice to have a break as well as keep myself active’

Like Hajra, regardless of disability, other University students who take part in regular physical activity say they perform better, are more employable and enjoy better mental well-being, according to a new study.

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‘As a University student, I am always around hearing people so its a challenge everyday. It’s nice to be able to come to training, let my hair down and socialise in the most comfortable environment’

Manchester City Women’s FC (Deaf)

As NDCS says ‘Deaf children may prefer to participate in mainstream football as there are more opportunities to play in a wide range of matches against the very best footballers, while others may prefer to participate in deaf football as it may be more socially and culturally appealing’

To find out more about Manchester City Deaf Football, click on the links below!!

Twitter – Man City Deaf FC

To find out more about Deaf football, click on the links below!!

England Deaf Football – Putting Deaf Football First

Somalia’s football league for deaf players

Looking back, appreciating where we are now.

1933, where it all began. The genocide of disabled people. It is truly heartbreaking to think of all the lives lost to the hands of Nazi’s genocide of disabled people. Not just disabled people, but their genocide of Jewish people, Roma, Gypsies and Black people

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Darfur Genocide Intervention

I wanted to look back on the history of disabled people, and look at where we are now. Even though, we still have a long way to go, we have come so far. 

Before

  • No rights for disabled people
  • Independent living didn’t even exist
  • No voices were heard from disabled people
  • Poor education for disabled people
  • Sterilisation of disabled children under 3 years old
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Now

There is so much development, I would have to write a lot.

Even though, this development is amazing, there is still so much work to be done.. just because we have laws, policies and whatever in place, it does not mean that disabled people do not receive hate, discrimination, marginalisation, oppression. We do, and its real.

On a nice note, if you want to know more about the activism of disabled people. Click on the links below!

Subtitles: ‘do you really need them’

Ignorance, at its finest.

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When Deaf people watch TV shows, films, documentaries or YouTube clips, subtitles are important for us to be able to follow what is being said.

For a ‘hearing’ person to say ‘ do you really need them’

SUBTITLES ARE A NEED NOT A WANT.

I can’t explain the importance of captions through writing, but these people can. Click the links below. They all have subtitles on their videos πŸ™‚


Max Clarke: ‘stop feeling sorry for me, there’s nothing to feel sorry about, I am proud to say I have a Deaf sibling’

Max shares the experiences they have gone through having a Deaf sibling and how it has made Max ‘stronger and willing to speak out against injustice’

‘Kris, I know you may be reading this and still feeling guilty for having a rough time growing up, I wish you would forgive yourself, it was never your fault and I love you unconditionally’ – Max

Importance of support for hearing families with a Deaf child

Hearing parents will often experience a range of emotions when they find out their child is Deaf BUT it isn’t all bad, especially when you have support out there. Max highlights that NDCS was incredibly helpful because they let Max and Max’s sister go on trips with their Deaf sibling to trips so that they were also experiencing the Deaf community’

Being involved in the Deaf community as a Deaf person is a part of ‘identity’ but when the siblings and parents are also given the opportunity to be involved, it opens so many doors for that family to get the support they need, like Max’s family.

Communication

9 out of 10 Deaf children are born to hearing parents, only 1 out of that 9 hearing parents will learn sign language. Max’s family learnt BSL at a later stage in their Deaf child’s life as Max uses a form of speech mixed with sign language – something we can refer to as SIGN SUPPORTED ENGLISH

Max did not learn BSL as a kid, Max felt that their deaf sibling was ‘ashamed to be deaf, it highlighted that he was different’

‘My parents took BSL lessons when my brother was young, I learnt later, the sessions with the social worker let us all be more deaf aware’

Deaf awareness is so important for the family unit, parents can choose their preference of communication but they must be deaf aware to ensure that child gets the best access not only in the household but in their education.

Have you had any negative reactions/experiences when telling people, you have a deaf sibling?

‘They’ll treat him like he’s stupid or defective in some way, or even worse like an object’

Stereotypes are a common factor into the treatment of Deaf people within our society, it creates ignorance within hearing people because they are seeing false representations in society.

CUE THE SYMPATHETIC FACE

‘Oh I’m so sorry – I can’t imagine what that must be like – honestly, I don’t know how you deal with it’

4 things you have learnt from having a deaf sibling?

  1. Deaf people are ‘done dirty’ by society and the government. ‘People don’t realise how deep discrimination against deaf people goes’
  2. There is always ‘something new I need to learn’
  3. My sibling has indescribable strength
  4. It has made ‘me willing to speak out against injustice’

4 things you want other people to know about being a sibling of a deaf person?

  1. Our siblings aren’t a problem : ‘stop pitying us, feeling sorry for us, there’s nothing to feel sorry for, and I’m proud to say I have a deaf sibling
  2. Talk to us: ‘If you want to ask awkward questions about deaf people but don’t want to ask a deaf person – ask me, I’m not going to bite’
  3. Consider us too: ‘My struggles are nothing to do with having a deaf sibling’
  4. The real me: ‘I am not defined as a ‘hearing sibling’ to a deaf person, I am Max’

Now, Max is passionate about disabled people’s rights. Max now works as

To find out more about NDCS and the support they give to families of deaf children. Click the links below!

Support available for siblings and families of deaf children – NDCS